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Thank you for sharing your grief. All of us are grieving in some way. Your words speak to my soul. And bring tears to my eyes. Your writing is such a gift.

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I am very sorry for your loss, dear Elizabeth, and the loss to your family. Your beautiful tribute strikes home, not only as a revelation of your father-in-law’s character but also as a lesson to us all to take nothing for granted in our loving relationships. May his memory be a blessing.

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I'm so sorry for your loss and at the same time, so appreciative of you sharing his story. I have tears in my eyes reading your words and know how treasured he was in your lives. Sending big hugs. We are here for you to support you and love you. Xo

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We are so deeply touched by this tribute to John, Elizabeth. I read it aloud to my husband. We who are in the "last lap" of our lives think about these things a lot. The cost of love: joy and grief. You have expressed so beautifully the value of John's life. And, thank you for acknowledging our country's denial about the massage losses we have incurred from COVID--we have definitely been touched by that. Sending so much love to you.

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Beautiful tribute. He spread love and set an example of love that you all will feel surrounding you throughout your lives. I'm so sorry.

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I am sorry for your family’s loss. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Love is the most important thing in life.

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Beautiful tribute. He spread love and set an example of love that you all will feel surrounding you throughout your lives. I'm so sorry.

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Thank you for sharing a bit of your father in law. What a loss to you and to your family. I hope the joy of being loved by and knowing this man will mitigate the deep sorrow of his loss.

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I am a crier too. The image of the coffee cups lined up was the part that broke me. The act of preparing coffee for you is beautiful.

Yes, the unmourned loss of so many and a very specific person in my life is hard. I lost my mil in June 2020 and we have still not had a service. Her ashes sit in the bottom of my china cabinet next to my dogs ashes. It is just sad.

Thank for sharing John’s story. His memory will live now when I think of coffee in the morning.

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Beautiful. Thank for you sharing your loss and grief. Grief is like a dirty secret so many just want people to keep themselves - yet sharing it helps the one grieving and the one who listens. Light and progress to his spirit, and comfort to you, your mother-in-law and your children. I am so sorry for your loss of this kind, loving man.

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Thank you for this beautifully written, nuanced tribute. And yes, why aren't we in national mourning? Someone just asked me to recommend a performer for an event and the woman I thought of first wouldn't be able to do it because she is dealing with long covid. And multiply that by a number we don't even seem to be counting.

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Beautifully spoken from your heart, reaching mine. Grieving with you. When you lost your dear Megan, I lost my sister. I lost my own dad just 2 months ago. Wrapping you in love. Thank you for sharing your eloquent words through the good and sad times.

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So sorry for your loss and I'm touched by this moving tribute to your step-father-in-law. He brought joy to those around him. Your mention that maybe his recent COVID infection may have contributed to his early passing is haunting. I know of at least two other men who passed in their mid to late 50s suddenly and no one knows if it could have been a factor. We all think we are going to live long lives, but we just never know.

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Many, many hugs for you and your kids.

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Thank you for sharing your grief and your reflections on the life of a good man. You are a gift to so many of us. I am thinking of you and your two children as you go through this period of grieving.

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Love and peace for you and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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